All of the blog posts, neatly arrange by year and category… neat
The last few months have been really great. My support setup is working well and i took some time of work to recharge a little after a few busy months.
I also had my 28th birthday. Here is some of the things i have been up to in roughly chronological order.
What I can do when I am staying with friends is a good way of seeing into the future.
A topic which comes up from time to time is around the difference between “Aspergers” or “ASD”. Diagnostically the difference is very small (age of speech development), however in other ways the difference is much more pronounced.
Many people might find it difficult to know if a room is the correct temperature. For example, parents of young children, or autistic people who have low sensitivity to heat.
I am autistic and i struggle to know if i am “too hot” or “too cold”, so i have built myself a mini tempreture gauge which shows me if the room is hot or cold in a visual icon based way.
It’s been a while since i updated, here is some of what i have been up too!
This post looks at how i manage the transition between the various places i sleep and how we have made the days less stressful and more productive.
The last month has been really positive. We’re really starting to see the positive outcomes which come from getting the right support in place.
Over the weekend i had the pleasure of contributing to the Autism Festival a Swansea. I had a really enjoyable time so i wanted to write a little about why i had fun and leave some thoughts about the content and wider angle the conference sent.
A few weeks ago we made some changes to my daily routine and they have been really positive. We sort of knew these changes where needed, but getting ill was a good catalyst to get the changes made. This post explores what changes we made and why.
The last few weeks have been very intense. This post tells the story of my recent trip to A&E.
I burnt myself, and this post explains how applying the social model helped me find an effective strategy to keep myself safer in the future.
Often its the little things which make the biggest difference to day to day life. In the last few weeks i have had a series of small achievements, so i wanted to share them here and give some context on why they are more meaningful than they appear.
This is a post about how i made it into town on the bus.
A short post about how i am using my iPad Pro for reading / working and communicating.
In the last two years i have had to develop a true "autistic" identity. This post looks at the main lessons i have learnt along the way.
This is my 6th week with the LD team looking after me and overall it is working well. I am just about stable and starting to get a good idea of what a sustainable output is. In some areas (like doing a weekly shop and my speech) the progress is really encoraging.
I’m writing this at 6pm on Friday, i wanted to get my thoughts written down before i headed to my freinds. I am suppose to be at my flat this weekend, but we cancelled those nights. I will stay with my friends so i can sleep better.
This post looks at how the last few weeks have gone. Some of the achievements, along with some of the remaining challenges.
I am happy my freinds are less stressed now the LD team is looking after me. I am also happy i can go shopping once a week and pick whatever food i want. I feel calmer and more stable and my speech is improving.
However, i really don’t like being trapped in my bedroom so much and i don’t really know what to do about it.
A short exploration of what elephants are and how i use them to shape my environment to meet my needs.
For the last 17 days we have been following a new support structure. The local learning disability and autism team have taken over my day to day support and taken the pressure off of my freinds.
Over the last week i have been amazed at how accepting and supportive the learning disability team are in how they work with me. This post explores why and how.
Today is my third morning since we started the new support plan and so far it’s going pretty well. To make it simple, for the first 5 nights the support person i know best has been looking after me and thats gone well.
My new routine starts tomorrow and it’s a bit scary but also very exciting. We are starting with 5 nights at my flat with the learning disabillity team looking after me.
My approach to the concept of masking and some the the thoughts behind it.
I was recently asked over Twitter to share my experiences with AAC, here is a summery of my thoughts.
This week has been a huge adventure. I have been staying with friends because the babysitter was unwell and the LD team are not ready to take over yet.
Tomorrow i am going to Germany with my freinds. We are visiting the [largest indoor waterpark in the world](german water park indoor largest) for a few days. This is my first trip to mainland europe and my first time in a country with a different language.
With that in mind, i thought it would be useful to share some of the tools i am taking with me and some of the techniques we will use
This post details the conflict I get into when I need to weigh a principle I hold against the pragmatic effect on others.
As we get towards the end of 2016 i wanted to document my support network now and also write a bit about the changes which are coming in 2017.
Some thought on what identity means to me and then how that influences the language I use.
When i worked in the BBC Radio and Music team one of the senior managers used to use the phrase "making bets" when it came to strategy decisions. I always liked the tone, it was a clear intention, but also an acceptance that it was a guess.
With that in mind, i’m starting to make a few bets of my own with my care.
The last few months have been really positive for me. We have mostly resolved the housing issues which where causing so much of the anxiety. Everyday still feels a bit like an exam, but it’s an exam i am well prepared for and can leave at anytime.
The reduced anxiety gives me a chance to look at how i am approaching my life and to re-evaluate my goals and ambitions.
Its surprisingly difficult to fit an extra bed into my flat alongside a sensible and safe working environment.
Documenting my experiences with pacing my energy use and managing FOMO. Also included examples of how to make communication more inclusive and the amazingly positive effect that can have on day to day life.
I’ve not been able to write as much since i moved into my new home for a few reasons. First, i’ve been really busy helping out a friend on a side project, and secondly because there’s not a whole lot to write about
This post is about a small but important achievement. I asked one of the evening carers to help me with someone outside of the normal routine. This is something i find extremely hard.
Today is my 27th Birthday and i have had a really amazing day with my friends. For those keeping track, i moved to a new home a few weeks ago and things are starting to settle. The new home is helping a ton.
In this post i look at the support plans for my new home and how i feel about the plans and long term goals.
In three weeks so much has changed!
New flat, new babysitter, new overnight support and refubished cafe!
I’m writing this on Sunday, it’s almost 6pm and i decided now would be a good time to document the last week and a bit before i started my evening routine with the babysitter at 7pm
Keeping this positive when my routines get interrupted it a challenge. Heres is todays attempt. Focusing on the future.
A post looking at the achievements i have made this week and why i think they were possible. Also a look at some of the changes which are coming up.
Please pardon the Star Wars reference, i couldn’t help myself. Today i submitted the paperwork for a new flat! We saw it at the weekend and it is very exciting.
The transition to paid support hasn’t worked yet. In this post i detail how we got here, what went wrong and what we are going to do next.
Its mostly positive
At the moment, i don’t really live in any one place. I spend most of my time between 3 places and sleep in 2 different beds most weeks.
The last 10 months have been some of the most challenging of my life. When i left my old home in Harrow for my operation, i knew it would change a few things, but i never expected it to change everything.
With so much in flux, i thought now would be a good time to pause and write up a summery. Here is the good, the bad, and the ugly of my life in mid 2016.